A person who comes from another country may have a name that is unfamiliar to someone living in the United States. Even though this person’s name may seem different or difficult, it’s important to call each person by their chosen name. That is because everyone’s name represents an important part of their identity. May Li is pronounced My Lee, not May Lee. This is very different from Mary. When they first met, Dar used the name Mary to try to build a connection with May Li, but that well-intentioned gesture is received differently by May Li. May Li likes her name and wants to be called by it.